Here’s the thing…I understand how difficult it is if you’re not a man to look at men and those who want to be men and think ???? That??? That’s what you want??? You’re allowed to have felt ugly when you were forced to be masc. You’re allowed to look at men and not find them in any way appealing even aesthetically.
But you’ve got to understand that it’s also ok if others have the same feelings you do, but about femininity.
Neither masculinity, femininity or androgyny is inherently beautiful, empowering or freeing. They become those things when a person gets to choose how to express themselves through them. And there are no wrong choices.
So if people are enthusiastic about being masc even in ways you and maybe most of society find ugly, just move on without saying anything negative and vice versa.
one of my favourite conversations with another trans person was early on in my journey sitting with a trans guy comparing our goals and feelings, how aspects of myself I wanted to get away from were mirrored in what he wanted and vice versa. how we’d each assumed the exact opposite of each other, wait doesn’t *everyone* want to be a girl/guy, that we’d each assumed before realising we were trans that our eventual goals would be the obvious “correct” choice if presented the option
that conversation was so eye opening and made me so much more secure in my understanding of myself and where I wanted to be
because if not everyone wants to be what I want to be then I really want this, it’s not just something I ever could’ve slipped into and I know that now
seeing my trans siblings reaching their transition goals in any way fills me with such unrelenting joy its hard to describe
a voice breaking on a trans masc is like the clouds parting so the sun can finally shine, a long awaited goal finally reached
I don’t know why anyone, no matter their own identity, wouldn’t be overjoyed to witness that
my toxic xennial trait is that i believe something should either be software (in which case after i download it i shouldn’t need to be connected to use it) or a web page (which shouldn’t require me to download anything to use it, however badly, in a browser). fuck your mandatory single function constant connection apps
You’re so right. Say more
99.99% of rap haters have never even listened to rap. or if they have it’s like one gangsta rap song & they treat the genre as a monolith and act like it’s representative of every rap song ever. and well of course they are also just racist
first & last line still stand even if rap was a monolith and all rap was gangsta rap. btw
Rap is great! Everyone knows the worst genre of music is country
99.99% of country haters have never even listened to country. or if they have it’s like one post-9/11 pop country song by a rich poser & they treat the genre as a monolith and act like it’s representative of every country song ever. and well of course they are also just classist
Is it all right to hit a Nazi unprovoked?
also, not to detract from the point
but nazi rhetoric is in itself violence
it is not unprovoked, it is defensive
because nazi rhetoric is inherently violent.
punch a nazi. they’re telling people to do worse to you.
also deplatforming works
Tumblr’s Core Product Strategy
Here at Tumblr, we’ve been working hard on reorganizing how we work in a bid to gain more users. A larger user base means a more sustainable company, and means we get to stick around and do this thing with you all a bit longer. What follows is the strategy we’re using to accomplish the goal of user growth. The @labs group has published a bit already, but this is bigger. We’re publishing it publicly for the first time, in an effort to work more transparently with all of you in the Tumblr community. This strategy provides guidance amid limited resources, allowing our teams to focus on specific key areas to ensure Tumblr’s future.
The Diagnosis
In order for Tumblr to grow, we need to fix the core experience that makes Tumblr a useful place for users. The underlying problem is that Tumblr is not easy to use. Historically, we have expected users to curate their feeds and lean into curating their experience. But this expectation introduces friction to the user experience and only serves a small portion of our audience.
Tumblr’s competitive advantage lies in its unique content and vibrant communities. As the forerunner of internet culture, Tumblr encompasses a wide range of interests, such as entertainment, art, gaming, fandom, fashion, and music. People come to Tumblr to immerse themselves in this culture, making it essential for us to ensure a seamless connection between people and content.
To guarantee Tumblr’s continued success, we’ve got to prioritize fostering that seamless connection between people and content. This involves attracting and retaining new users and creators, nurturing their growth, and encouraging frequent engagement with the platform.
Our Guiding Principles
To enhance Tumblr’s usability, we must address these core guiding principles.
- Expand the ways new users can discover and sign up for Tumblr.
- Provide high-quality content with every app launch.
- Facilitate easier user participation in conversations.
- Retain and grow our creator base.
- Create patterns that encourage users to keep returning to Tumblr.
- Improve the platform’s performance, stability, and quality.
Below is a deep dive into each of these principles.
I couldn’t be more dissatisfied with your shift in strategy. The only good things on the list was debugging the apps and improving the search engine.
Tumblr’s lack of an algorithm and the ability to personaly currurate your experience is the main draw of the Tumblr. It’s why it’s the only social media I use.
Removing the ability to have total control is removing what draws users. Especially since in this age of iformation overload the ability to only choose to engage with co tent of your chooseing is a Godsend! “Following” is one of the single strongest features on this beloved Hellsite.
Share this with your friends, with how the proposed changes would negatively impact you. And remember to @staff so you’re not just screaming into the void. Scream directly into their void.
#Save our Hellsite, #SaveOurHellsite
@charminglyantiquated @yanavaseva @rowan-rites @thecatatonic @themaskismyface @cybertronianxwhore @cebuwu @childofblackmaria @sashi-ya @thewildomega @transingthoseformers @heyitsdoe @stupid-sloot-headcanons @nymphoheretic @stygianoir @shankss-magnificent-ass @
About the algorithm: I recently opened Facebook for the first time in months and most of the posts that I saw when I scrolled down were random things I really did not want to see - or didn’t care about - instead of the latest posts from people I know. And I hear similar complaints regarding other platforms that I don’t use. It’s very frustrating to have to scroll past things that are all trying to grab your attention (especially videos) and create mood whiplash with the art and writing you’re actually trying to reach.
Which is why I’m quite distrustful of algorithm- based content. It’s like a hurdle you have to jump over to get to what you came in for in the first place. Probably because other social media take the time that people spend looking at the screen as a metric of success so they dangle a lot of things that are statistically proven to grab people’s attention in front of the user, with a huge dose of ads thrown in.
Actually, in recent months the main praise I’ve seen directed at Tumblr is the fact that it’s the last place where you still get exactly what you want - posts only from people you follow, in chronological order so you can keep up with their stuff.
A good way to improve the new user experience would be to make the on-site search results better at finding old posts and with more filtering options. That way you fix the problem of finding blogs to follow since it’s an interest-based social media. I’ve found blogs here because of google results for various topics.
@staff are you literally trying to replace the fucking Twitter by attempting to become more like it rather than play into Tumblr’s unique strengths? FUCK NO TO THE ALGORITHM and fuck your meaningless corporate blather. DO NOT TELL US WHAT WE NEED AS USERS, BUT LISTEN WHAT WE ASK FOR.
I decided that any time I get mildly upset over completely uncalled lore changes in the Nimona movie, I will just remember that this movie will make a lot more people read the comic now and that’s just a fucking win-win.
Please don’t ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the “He’s exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network” talk and some people aren’t
FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:
- There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.
- If someone tells you that “the way I’m acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway” is just fancy bullshit talk for, “I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don’t want to be held responsible for it so I’m pushing it on you”
- Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, “I don’t want you talking about our relationship with anyone”. This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That’s easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren’t there to cut in.
- Nothing constructive comes from screaming.
- “It’s not like that all the time” is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn’t be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don’t erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don’t minimize it.
- It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying “no” to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone’s reaction to your boundaries.
- You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can’t stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they’re threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they’re using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don’t get to shunt that off on you.
- There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you
This applies to ALL relationships btw
Don’t let studio execs and streaming corporations convince you that this writer’s strike is going to ruin the art that you love. The art is nothing without the artist, and our favorite artists cannot make our favorite art when their pay is too low, their contracts too short, and their writer’s rooms understaffed!!!
